The Many Generations of Sex

Once upon a time, sex was just sex. A caveman's reason to breed. However, through out many generations of humanity, sex has transpired from being basic need, to something almost feared. Though, sex has played an important role in the right of passage for men, to boneheaded explanations for jealous rage, once upon time, sex was still just sex. It was a man and woman's way of providing one another great pleasure. This form of family entertainment between a man and his wife, wasn't the best kept secret in town, either. It's virtuosity for providing overwhelming sexual pleasure, created large families in the early 1600's to the mid 1900's. It was carried on, practiced and even encouraged without the worries of prudish societies, and god fearing people passing judgment over them.

However, America's close mindedness towards sexual activity has led to a new "Scarlet Letter" community lifestyle. A society where sex is everywhere, yet it is nothing more than a cryptic secret, consumed in disillusions and severely lacking in passion. This most basic human need, has now turned into the world's best kept secret.

Do you realize that it is a known fact, that both the Confederate and Union soldiers were allowed and even encourage to visit brothels, or bawdy houses as they were called in the south, all through the war.

It has been written that, “In 1864 there were 450 brothels in Washington, and over 75 brothels in nearby Alexandria, Virginia. A local newspaper estimated there were 5000 public women in the District of Columbia, and another 2500 in Alexandria and Georgetown, bringing the total to 7500 by the war’s third year.”

This new era of hush-hush conversations between people concerning sex, has only brought about the advancement of a new Anthropology/Sociology, scientific field of study, known as Sexology. Which is of course, the study to helping people understand, why they need to have sex. Seriously people, since when do we need scientist teaching us ways to have sex, and giving us reasons why we should have sex? It seems a little crazy to me, but, am I the only one in thinking so? Sex is sex! It is one of the most beautiful, intimate experiences two or more people can share. It relaxes the soul, and enhances the mind.

As many of you know, I have written many different articles about sex. I have written hubs concerning teenage pregnancy, ways to implementing sexual exercises, to "How to" hubs about feeling sexier. Moreover, I have touch on this subject matter before, but not with this sincerity. I am truly concern about America being too conservative, and extremely uptight.

I'll tell you what prompted me to write another sex hub. I watched an episode of the Bravo cable series, The Housewives of New Jersey. In that episode, Jacqueline Laurita was talking to her eighteen year old daughter, about her living arrangements. Her daughter had just recently moved out of the home, because she felt her family's rules were too strict. Same story, we all have heard it before.

However, what caught my attention was that, is was quite clear that Jacqueline had never really conversed with her daughter about any sexual topics. The teen giggled and squirmed when Jacqueline asked if she was being safe and using protection. I, being the opposite of Jacqueline's parenting practices, was appalled that this woman, was just now getting involved in her daughter's sex life. Seriously, that tells me that there is something terribly wrong with our sexual generation.

As parents, we should be truthful to our kids. We should not tell them to wait. That is simply unrealistic. Did you wait? Well you were one out of a million. Our kids today, should not be scared to talk to us about sex. We, as parents should not make sex appear to be something "nasty or dirty." I honestly feel that if more families were honest about sex, our kids would be safer and would probably be more open to saving it for marriage. Furthermore, it is crazy in this day and age, for parents not to be providing condoms for their kids, and some kind of birth control for their daughters. Especially that is, if you don't want another tax credit, on your next year taxes. Moreover, unwed mothers and teenage pregnancies are at an all time high, in our illogical society. The burden that that causes on our individual state's tax system, is to the breaking point. I, for one am tired of paying my hard earn money, on pregnant kids, whose mothers and fathers forgot to talk about sex to them.

What really gets my gall brewing is how the modern-day parent, just expects our young lovers to abstain from sex. Just as the House Wife of New Jersey, pretended that her kid would or could not, possibly be having sex. She is 18. She has a 23 year old boyfriend, get a clue- they two of them are having sex! That 1950's ideology is ancient, even though that line of thinking developed sometime in this "post modern day era." To me, that thought process is as barbaric as Attila the Hun himself was. Who by the way, had plenty of great sex, and it wasn't the best kept secret in the village either.

It's like this people, my son has watched rated R movies for a couple of years now. He has sat in the living room, with his Papa and mother and has watched many love scenes. By showing him, our own individual comfort level with sexual activity, my son doesn't find sex that secretive or interesting. It's no big thing to him. Recently he went on his first "movie" date alone, without the stalking eyes of his parents sitting near by. When he got home, I could tell he was pissed off a little, so I asked him what was wrong. He was pissed because of all the lip smacking and kissing going on in the movie. He said it was like his friends had never been away from home, and he didn't understand why they wanted to kiss all the time and feel their girlfriends up- instead of watching the movie. My point is, sex is natural to Zach. Since he knows about it, and has even witness people having sex on TV, it isn't a "dirty little secret" to him. It is something worth waiting for. It is something he can see for himself. Where his teenie-bopper buddies, cannot wait to see and to know what sex is all about. My son knows, and right now could he could careless.

Americans are way too uptight about sex. Why we lay guilt trips on people who love to have sex, or why we feel the need to have a new scientific approach to sex- is completely beyond me. As for myself, I love sex. I love the raw nature of sex, and the overwhelming feeling of pleasure. Sex is something to be deemed beautiful, and not buried as a cryptic, deep, dark and mysterious secret. This policy of turning a blind eyed to the reality of love, is more dangerous than any nuclear weapon release upon us. Emptiness leads to destruction, a natural means of destruction at that. If we can learn anything from our past generations, it should be that sex is sex, and it's good for the soul.